Those few words are something a lot of young men tend to hang onto. We often look for an apology or admittance to mistakes from our fathers. Hell, a handful of older men could benefit from having heard those words as well. Not specific to, but these words are often thought about by men who carry strained relationships with their fathers. And they are only a few simple words. A few simple words, heavy enough to change a young man's life.
Women take after their mothers and men take after their fathers, not too foreign of a concept. Obviously there are interchangeable ideals in between, which is why we have two parents. We are almost direct clones of our parents, a combination of the two with looks closely resembling them. With men, we want to be recognized by what we consider to be the original. The men we resemble hold the highest form of recognition through pride, something we strive after. Whether or not we care to admit it, a lot of our success in life comes through trying to show others how much we've grown and accomplished. In the process of working towards our accomplishments, a fear develops in still growing men. A fear which involves doing our best to follow as closely as possible in our fathers positives footsteps. In addition, it's straying far away from their negatives. An idea I went into depth with in The Sins of our Fathers.
To the fathers out there, specifically to the much older fathers who are set in their ways, heed my words wisely. I'm an individual who has thought about this topic long before blogging or sharing my thoughts outwardly ever entered my mind. I've been trying to repair my own relationship with my father for years. Admit to the faults you've held onto and start talking to your son. Let him know where you went wrong and how you would've or should've approached the past. It'll change their life in monumental ways. Young men grow up hearing about their mistakes much too often. To have an older image of themselves admit to similar mistakes would release a massive load off their shoulders. Father's have a million and one jobs, none of which I find myself envious of. However, there is is one more they could add to their list. Talk to your son, let them know you are sorry.
Learn to say sorry and WashYourAss
- Noble
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