Introspection comes about by learning from the mistakes and faults of our peers. We reflect our own life on theirs to see where they misstep. The idea of introspection is one of my absolute favorite topics to discuss as it's something I work work with every day. In addition to challenged myself, discovering the practice of thinking on how to approach life, love, and all its mysteries in between. Like most of my articles I've broken it up into three more easy to consume topics. Everyone's path is different but I'd like to lay out the ground work. Introspection comes from vulnerability, failure, and the ability to balance out the usage of your conscious and subconscious mind.
Step one comes through vulnerability. I'll keep this paragraph short because it's something I have discussed on numerous occasions and something that will continue to come up in the future. While everyone's goals for introspection could be different the outcome falls into the same patterns. Regardless of the outcome, it involves looking at yourself through a magnifying glass. One wavering on the finest edge between nitpicking, self loathing, and true introspection. Think of it as balancing a ball on top of a pyramid. It will fall eventually, however you and you alone are capable of shifting the winds to have it fall where you'd like. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable at an appropriate pace is how you shift those wind and begin to learn how to dive deeper into who you are.
Step two comes through failure. Again something that I will bring up time and time again until the idea sits at the forefront of your mind. It's okay to fail, especially if you are able to take at least a little bit from the scenario. I will repeat that until you are spreading it like fire, it's okay to fail. Not everything in life is going to work in your favor. Life is developing the skills to get back up from those harsh scenarios. It's taking the time to reflect on how and where things went wrong and how we can learn to approach the more accurately if we are presented similar situations. Embracing failure is a wonderful idea, it removes the worry and doubt of repetition and allows you to push even further next time. Beginning to learn what the wrong step are, is how you will differentiate the right steps. The struggle comes from whether or not you allow yourself to seem them.
The final step is balance. Specifically the balance of the subconscious and conscious mind. Something I've found myself struggling with on an incredible level. The ability to think during conversation or think during actions, instead of letting muscle memory take over. I've found when I was younger, muscle memory and simple habits primarily took over in my conversation. Typing emails or messaging online friends came easily enough. I'd be able to hang onto the words and think of an appropriate response instead of having the pressure to keep conversation rolling. In person I carried less than half of these skills and it became evident I had difficulty holding true conversations. True conversation will also be a post coming soon as it's something young adults and teens struggle with, look forward to it soon.
The subconscious is tricky, shocker Noble something we don't entirely understand is tricky. Well let me elaborate.Your actions including your subconscious are a layered puzzle. The first puzzle piece is holding the conversation. Moving onto the second involves your conscious mind. Being aware of your surroundings, of the person opposite to you, keeping appropriate eye contact, making sure to not stray too far away from the subject. But hidden and locked away, the third puzzle piece exists. The struggle here is to find a way bring your subconscious to the forefront of your mind in the midst of conversation. Amidst your conversation your subconscious has run seventeen different ideas and outcomes based on how you approach your conversation. And on top of trying to piece everything together, what you'd really like to talk about sits buried in the back of your mind. Regardless of the relationship, you may not know how to bring up certain subjects which lead you to sitting in the shower and running through the conversation over and over, nitpicking each detail. And it all came out of a fear that you'd horribly misstep. It's beautiful and frightening. The trick I've developed is to take a deep breath or ask for a pause in the conversation. I don't know about y'all, but I'm tired of thinking in the shower.
Dive deeper into yourself and WashYourAss
- Noble
(also that sign off was way funnier than I intended it to be, but I'm leaving it)
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