Have you ever seen someone sitting by themselves at a party, observing everything going around them. They seem mostly quiet until somebody decides to be outgoing and strikes up a conversation with them. Suddenly this stranger is an enthralling conversationalist and has the attention of anyone who is willing to listen. I aspire to be similar to those people, but I also happen to be incredibly loud. However, it doesn't mean I can't apply skills for myself to be both the deep conversationalist and goofy life of the party.
When I discuss the power of words, it's a lot more than only word choice. For example I could have used the word "just" instead of "only" in my previous sentence. This trait, which I've found myself consistently annoyed with is something I'm trying to fix in my own writing and speak. The word "just" is passive, it's lazy. and it's something I picked up in my younger essay writing days to stretch the page. Words like "so, just, maybe, should, like, seems." All these words aren't affirmative nor are they definitive in the message you are trying to convey. Get rid of them, they're flat out ugly English.
If you apply your dictation to confidence, one who has the trait of being able to carry a conversation has developed an incredibly attractive trait. I've said it before, but I'll repeat it until the idea is implanted in your minds. Humans are attracted to confidence. Whether it's a man that carries his shoulders high or a woman who walks with her chin up and her hips swinging. Confidence is absolutely everything. A theory I've been testing recently reflects confidence more so than I initially thought. Why do humans work on all these features that give them a better appearance, but refuse to work on their dictation? It's because judging a book by it's cover is ingrained in us until we enter our conscious lives and learn that looks don't equal interesting. Because of laziness, fear, or a refusal to recognize, and all the other minor reasons, too many people refuse to challenge their own dictation.
The power of words is an absolutely incredible topic and I believe it's neglected in school for much longer than it should be. I'm not implying that certain speaking patterns should be enforced, that could never work. People will still use their slang, they'll still have their profanity, and they'll still have common missteps while they are learning. If everyone spoke by an English professor we'd have to diversity, which is simply boring. On the other side of that same coin, I find myself apologizing right after something I don't want to say comes out. For the first time in my life I'm aware and actively trying to change my speech patterns. The "correct" or "ideal" speech patterns run in a circle until they fall back on affirmation. Affirmation is a beautiful word and a beautiful principal. We strive to have our relationships, our work ethic, our style, we wish everything to be affirmed that possibly could be . It's fine to think and want those things, in fact it's encouraged. If striving after affirmation and attention will lead you down the path of becoming a better person, by all means chase it.
This principle starts with saying yes more. It involves cutting out the negative connotation from your every day speak. Non-definitive words will be sent to the shadow realm as well. It is never to late to start on the path of reevaluating and improving your dictation. It'll be much more difficult the older you get, as humans fall into stubborn ways, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't allow yourself to try. Come across confident and ask questions, attempt to use your conscious mind more in conversations, when you are wrong, which you inevitable will be, understand why and re-approach the subject.
Grow your dictation and WashYourAss
- Noble
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