I'd like to get something straight before you delve into the meat and potatoes of this post. Most people have the opinion of looks mattering, whether they are willing to admit to it or not. And it's okay to initially pursue someone because of their looks, we take the leap because of whats on the outside and we stay because of what's on the inside. Getting to know everything behind the physical appearance is one of the core elements of emotional maturity. Of course, there are scenarios where you finding yourself having an admiration for a potential partners personality. The cherry on top ends up with you finding out you were attracted to them all along. Those situations are beautiful, pure, and hold a jealous spot in my heart. However, in addition to looks we need to ask ourselves a question. What makes up an attractive human?
There have been countless articles written about "The fifteen signs your crush is a good/bad person." I've always been consistently bugged by these articles for a specific reason. Humans aren't inherently bad people. Humans can learn to correct their manners, treat wait staff more appropriately, or respect their peers. The idea of a good or bad person is difficult because it's based on their willingness to learn and adapt. Let me restate, attractiveness isn't only dependent on looks. I felt the need to repeat myself in hopes the idea will stick. But instead of leaving the idea open-ended, continue to allow me to elaborate. Attractive qualities lie in a good conversationalist. One whom is able to listen, but not only listen. They also have developed the skill of actually hearing what you are trying to get across and they will listen intently. Something we all find ourselves guilty of from time to time is waiting for our turns to speak. Whether or not we are willing to admit our fault is a sign of maturity, which will be touched on further in the post. These conversationalists, allow you to finish your piece before putting forth their own opinions, even if you end up interrupting one another during the process. They'll hold onto your would or ask politely to interject when they feel they could provide some insight.
An attractive person is one who holds the door open for twenty strangers in a row. Whether they're doing it to be polite or because they initially did it for their own party will remain a secret to only them. The same idea follows suite in helping with something heavy, its the selflessness. The selflessness to take time away from your own plans or destination to help those around you. Selflessness is an invaluable skill which people have to spend countless hours developing and shaping correctly. Selflessness can become one of the most beneficial tools to take away for yourself. If you allow yourself to master it and learn the best methods to keep from getting consumed by it. It is a tool that is shaped over a lifetime of work. Those who can capture it are destined for greatness.
An attractive person shows real signs of maturity. To my younger audience, maturity is much more than knowing curse words or being able to discuss sex and drugs openly. Maturity is a willingness of learning and making mistakes. In addition to staying confident and true to your own ideals, it's a willingness of allowing yourself to be swayed by new information. It's allowing yourself to admit fault and learning to ask for help when you feel like you are lost without a paddle. Something I still consistently struggle with. Maturity is an admittance to knowing nothing, but being prepared to take in everything.
To send it off, humanity is beautiful. It's beautiful because it fails, learns, and grows. One that can maintain the traits listed above or ones similar to it, are nothing short of gold. If it also happens this person is physically attractive, well they are more than beautiful. In the case you are lucky enough to find all these traits and more in one person. Take the leap and snatch them up before you lose you regret losing that opportunity for the rest of your life.
You are all beautiful, especially when you WashYourAss
- Noble
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