I'd like to talk to the men for just a moment here. Both sexes can be found guilty of the concept of chasing, but more often than not I see it in the guys I know or have known in my life. Although it might specifically be a trait in younger men, it's an issue that is prevalent nonetheless.
Let's break things down a bit, chasing is blind. The idea of chasing is becoming so infatuated with somebody that you let all their shortcomings go if there is a possibility to start something romantic with them. The idea of chasing in itself is flawed. That is not how relationships are supposed to be built. There are exceptions with chasing where maybe the chased is able to work through the whole situation and the two of them are actually able to build something. There lies issues with a power struggle and a failure to communicate. It's a whole clown fiesta. Work away from chasing, it's the better option.
I'd like to ask my younger audience to please pay attention here. You aren't trying to make your crush attracted to you. You are tying to make sure the two of you are compatible. If you are chasing someone for the sake of hooking up, neat more power to you. If you find someone that you swear could be the one, or a person you'd really like to get to know more, drop the act. You'll still be guilty of a few things here and there that involve trying to impress your crush. Don't feel too guilty for that, it might happen subconsciously. If you are finding yourself actively trying to impress the person, there are two possible options. Recognize who this person is and if they are really worth this charade that you are putting on. If you feel that they are, drop the act because they could be something special. The other option of course is to be reevaluating your own approach, take a deep breath and give it a decent think. When you give your mind time to think, your answer might shock you.
Stop chasing and WashYourAss
- Noble
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