Let's Talk: Consideration and Kindness

This is a topic that has been sitting on the forefront of my mind recently. Why are kids, well specifically teens, usually assholes? Well they are learning in their own ways of course, but their is also one glaring issue. They mistake consideration and kindness for weakness.

Allow me to elaborate on that idea. The character trait of being considerate or kind usually seems to come with age. And that isn't taught in the younger generation aside from when they are much younger. Everyone learns their manners and sharing skills in kindergarten, but while teens age they seem to regress in that aspect only to reattain it when they get into their twenties. There are also the rare circumstances where people never grasp that concept again. Those are what you would consider the "perpetual douche." The people who were never set straight or never learned how beneficial being kind could be for them.

Kindness and consideration involve a lot of patience. Especially when you are first acquiring these skills. There will be a lot of acceptance of flaws in the beginning, but make no mistake, when you pick up these skills, it under no circumstance makes you a punching bag. With half of the things I've written about, I talk about the fine line between the two. This specific subject being no exception. Without riding the line you could end up being preachy or the target of someones emotional abuse. Of course you'll slip up while you are learning, sometimes you'll end up the douche and sometimes you'll be walked on. As always, the mistakes are encouraged.

Riding that perfect line makes you somebody that people can come to. Hell, riding within a decent distance of that line will still make you someone that people are able to come to. You'll obviously range more towards making mistakes if you drift too far from the center line, but that'll probably happen eventually whether or not you are able to control it. In addition to self progression, you'll be able to observe people running through the same learning process. Don't hesitate to offer a helping hand if you feel like your experiences may benefit them. Sharing the kindness with one another will further the growing process for each of you, making you each better people in the long run.