Another personal favorite topic of mine. Whatever age you may be, early teens, mid twenties, late fifties, there could always be a better version of you. That best version comes through vulnerability, failure, admittance/acceptance, and self discovery.
Vulnerability could arguably be the hardest of the traits to get down, it's a word I use constantly. I let my fingers run wild when talking about being vulnerable because it's such's an incredibly useful characteristic to have. Everything else seems to fall into line when you allow the vulnerability into your life. Allowing it is the difficult part. When you accept and work with this characteristic, fear and anger will be close behind, ready to shut you down and push the ability to be open much farther back. There is also an issue that if you become vulnerable in front of the wrong person, it could stunt your growth even further. Atop that, if you let out too much to fast it could poison the well. Imagine punching a small hole in a water balloon that could be taped up every now and then. It's a solid way to start when you are just moving towards your path of vulnerability. In addition to that, the number one key is honesty. Fear and failure lie in honesty, but we need to refuse to let that failure control us.
Failure is my personal weakest point. I hate the idea of letting not only myself down, but the people around me. I hate wallowing in the sadness of failure, the feeling of utter defeat and wandering. If you told me that failure and pain were synonymous, I'd believe without any proof. Dammit does it hurt to fail. The longer that you sit in that failure the more it consumes you. The longer you don't jump because you sit with that failure, the more it will become you. It's a constant cycle of self loathing emotions that always end with you feeling more defeated the further you let it spiral. Escaping failure is different for every human that experiences it. I hate that I'm unable to tell you the key to letting failure go, as I'm guilty of still holding onto things from the past. The inability to let things go doesn't dictate my power over failure though, it makes me human. Our major failures keep us in line and far away from mistakes we've made in the past. The minor failures are what we need to move through and learn to work through. The answer lies in learning to admit and accept what has happened.
Admittance and acceptance are two sides of the same coin, just as pain could be with failure. When you reach a certain age, moving past the bullying phase and growing into your own. Your flaws are legitimately seen through your own eyes for the first time. Not just the physical features that you may have been teased for in school or things that happened in your past. Admittance starts when you take a really good look in the mirror or self reflect harder than you ever have before. It's the realization that your personality or your individual self isn't what you had worked it out to be. It's the admittance that you need to make a change and begin working. The millisecond that you decide that you can work out these issues is where acceptance begins. Acceptance could start with recognizing your flaws and inching forward from there. Acceptance also falls in line with owning it my post from yesterday. When you begin to accept the negatives and positive about your individual self is when you will be able to set on the path to self discovery.
Self discovery could end up being the hardest or easiest path you will experience, depending how prepared you are. It could be the hardest in that, you never became vulnerable, you never experienced the failure, and admittance and acceptance escaped your grasp. Self discovery without all the prior knowledge may be hell, but it isn't impossible. Remember that difficult paths aren't impossible and don't need to be. The easier path of self discovery is with all the prior knowledge. I say that because self discovery entails each of those things, some more severe than the next. Each step before or each key, whatever you might consider them to be, are all just cheats to managing self discovery better. When you continue through the path of self discovery, you'll find many crossroads along the way. Some seemingly impossible and some that are almost comically easy, but each bump in the road will lead to the best version of you, so keep a good head on your shoulders and keep working. Somewhere along the way, you'll learn to love yourself, and that is one of the greatest gifts you can contain.
Love yourself and WashYourAss
- Noble
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