Let's Talk: Imperfections

Imperfection, a negative and powerful word. Imperfections are what we see when we look in the mirror for hours on end and seethe. Feeling hate towards ourselves for things we can't control or things we refuse to change. These imperfections dig at us and find ways to control us, it's a fear that dictates our lives. It keeps us from trying on new clothes, going to the gym, or asking that cute person out. But you know what? Everybody has imperfections. Your imperfections are unique to you, however the idea of being imperfect is not unique to you!

A comfortable way to move past your imperfections is to start talking about them. Start telling people you trust that you have these issues with yourself. Announce it quietly to yourself if that's more comfortable for you. If your imperfections can be fixed or worked on, reach out and ask for help. If i'ts not that simple, ask for help embracing them. For example, I used to hate my teeth. They aren't straight and they aren't pearly whites, and for a while that really hurt me to think about. My perception of my teeth changed with time, as I grew up I accepted them. I'll get places eventually and put in my time in the dentist office, when the money is right of course. Waiting might be rough, but that's okay because it is a fixable imperfection. Not only will it be better for my health, my confidence will shoot through the roof.

On top of that what you view as an imperfection, those around you could embrace it or even find it attractive. A large part of love is embracing your partners imperfections. Imagine what it would be like if your partner not only accepted those imperfections, but loved you for them as well. The issues that you have with yourself will always be relative to you. It doesn't mean they aren't real issues and that doesn't mean you should pass them off as nothing. It does mean that regardless of your perception of yourself, you will be accepted by those around you. And those that make the mistake of not accepting you are not, and will never be people that you need in your life.

In the worst case scenario, let's say you can find only imperfections. Well honestly that's okay. Life is both long and short at the same time. Long in the fact that we can live for many years but short in the grand scheme of things. Your opinion of yourself will change in that time, especially if you are reading this as a teenager or a young adult. Please don't assume that things are hopeless, because you will grow in so many more ways than you can imagine. It's never to late to hit the gym, or try a scent, or change up your diet. Look around you for those who will support you, let them help you build the confidence. Take the shot, not trying at all will always be worse than failure itself.

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- Noble